After being in a relationship for long enough that you know your girl is not going anywhere, you should still be careful. There is a tendency among men at this stage to regress into a mommy-son relationship with his girlfriend or wife. In other words, the dude will stop being the cool alpha-male who attracted the chick in the first place and instead play the unconditionally loved and somewhat spoiled, bratty kid who tells his mommy EVERY LITTLE THING that bothers him. This then forces by default the girlfriend/wife into playing the responsible, caring mommy, ever afraid that her bratty kid will throw a tantrum.
Women who have the misfortune to fall in love with a man who makes this shift usually just take on the burden and live crappy lives for a while. Most won’t stand for it long though, as they will start to have strong fantasies about being with a real alpha-male. As soon as one comes along under the right circumstances, she’s dropping that tantrum-throwing beta ass in a flash.
The main sign that you are making this shift is if you start telling your woman every damn little problem you have. You just dump them on her. And if you’re a TOTAL LOSER, you’ll actually get pissed at her and mistreat her for caring enough to suggest solutions to your petty problems. The other big mistake you’ll make is to allow yourself to be depressed around your woman. Don’t do this, even for a second. Understand that your woman wasn’t put on this earth to hear all about your problems and depressive thoughts or to deal with your bad moods whenever they happen to arise. In short, she ain’t your mommy!
Women are far darker-souled then you think. Women put on a good front of cheeriness, but even the happiest seeming women are pretty depressed and scared inside. They see an even uglier world than you do and they are much more vulnerable to it than a man is. Women want to mentally escape the harshness of life anyway they can — and a strong, fun man is their best bet to get there. Women already have a lot of problems on their minds. They really don’t need your stupid petty problems and depression loading them down further. Don’t get fooled because most women will show you some temporary care and attention when you are unloading your woes on them. That’s just a woman’s natural maternal instinct kicking in. Realize that that once that kicks in, sexual attraction dims accordingly.
God created attraction between the sexes to make us all stop obsessing over our petty problems and just get focused on something else for a little while. Women are here for you to direct your natural sexual energy in ways that cheer her up so much that she gets horny and wants to mount you (so you can forget about your problems lol). All other goals in man-women relationships — if they take away from this dynamic — are really just bullshit and should be avoided. Get it? Your ONLY job is to cheer her up. Nothing more nothing less. YOU are the big strong daddy here to show her a great time and never show weakness, depression, or irritability — EVER!! SHE is there for you to put a smile on her face, period. Nothing but strong, confident, humorous, entertaining love should be coming out of you toward her. Keep this in mind next time you think you want to throw a petty tantrum. It ain’t worth it bro.