As a man, having a hot woman take interest in you or, better yet, bang you can be a definite confidence builder for a time. But your underlying confidence in your self can’t just come from that. If that’s all it’s based on, your confidence will ebb and flow with how well that woman treats you. Trust me, it will drive you insane. If your self-esteem is EVER at the mercy of the moods and whims of a woman, you will be doomed to an emotional roller coaster ride that will inevitably destroy you.
For a man to have real self-confidence with women (and in life), he must truly admire himself, ie, he must consider himself “successful” ASIDE FROM his success with women. However he defines that kind of success, he must be nearly there or well on his way there to be truly self-confident. There is no way around this.
Each man’s idea of success will of course be based on different, concrete things depending upon the kind of man he is and the path he’s chosen in life. If he’s the kind of guy that regards wealth as the measure of success, his self-esteem will be based on how much money he makes in comparison with his peers. If, on the other hand, he’s the kind of guy who regards artistic achievement as the measure of success, his self-esteem will be based on his true level of artistry in comparison with his peers.
Whatever the kind of man you are, when a hot woman takes an interest in you or, better yet, bangs you, that can temporarily provide the feeling of general “success” in life. This is a huge psychological reason why men, especially men who do not consider themselves otherwise successful, are generally obsessed with women. For most men, a hot woman’s attention is basically a one-way ticket out of loserville, or at least it seems to be to their untrained eyes. Of course there is a biological urge involved here, but the psychological urge to feel “successful” is the much more powerful drive at play. That is why you will find that the more successful you become in life (aside from your success with women), the less you will lust after women generally. This makes sense since you will not need a woman’s affection as much to prove to yourself that you are “successful.”
This explains why many dudes in the lower class professions, like construction workers or mechanics, simply lose their minds around the women who happen to be in their vicinity. Even when a grandma walks by these clowns, they are reduced to cat-calling, pathetic dolts.
The point here is: Don’t put the cart before the horse. Pursue success in life ASIDE from women. That should be your main goal. Let your success with women be the icing on the cake of your life, not the cake itself.