As a man, having a hot woman take interest in you or, better yet, bang you can be a definite confidence builder for a time. But your underlying confidence in your self can’t just come from that. If that’s all it’s based on, your confidence will ebb and flow with how well that woman treats you. Trust me, it will drive you insane. If your self-esteem is EVER at the mercy of the moods and whims of a woman, you will be doomed to an emotional roller coaster ride that will inevitably destroy you.